The original title I had was Mentor or Tormentor. And aha, there’s a journal article entitled Tormentor mentors, and how to survive them from Nature. Alas, it’s pay walled. But I thought dementor would be way more cool. Here’s how dementors have been described –
Dementors were wraithlike creatures that fed on human happiness and generated terrible feelings of despair within any person in close proximity. In the worst case scenario, a Dementor’s Kiss would allow the Dementor to consume a human’s soul, leaving them in a vegetative state.
https://www.wizardingworld.com/fact-file/creatures/dementor
Sounds about right.
What does it mean to be a mentor? Stenfors-Hayes et al explored this question in medical and dental education.
- A mentor is someone who can answer questions and give advice.
- A mentor is someone who shares what it means to be a doctor/dentist.
- A mentor is someone who listens and stimulates reflection.
Here’s how to find out if instead you have a tormentor (or worse, a dementor). Answer the questions below from Joelle Jay of the Forbes Coaches Council:
- Do you ever find yourself doing work for your “mentor” that you don’t get credit for?
- Are you sometimes given so much work by your “mentor” that you don’t have time to work on what’s important to you?
- Does your “mentor” fail to offer the support you need to realize your goals?
So let’s discuss at the #HealthXPH tweet chat on 20 July 2024, 9 pm Manila time. Here are the questions –
T1. What do you expect from a mentor? Share positive mentoring experiences.
T2. Share tips on how to survive a mentor who has become a tormentor/dementor.
T3. Do you see yourself mentoring others? Why or why not?
NOTE: I used the WordPress AI to generate the featured image for this post. Look at the gibberish it included! Looks cool otherwise.